Collaboration: What Men Should and Should NOT do {Written by Kallyn & Callie}

This last weekend I went out with a couple friends and one in particular was asking us to "hook him up" with someone. He was telling me that he wanted some advice about girls so I gave him some. I asked Kallyn to help me make a collaboration of some more. Asking some of the women we work with "What are some things that you think men should and shouldn't do," this is what we came up with.

*DO*

1. Open doors for any and all girls, regardless if you are attracted to them or not. It shows respect and that you are caring. You never know who could be watching.

2. Give complements. A complement from a man is way different than a complement coming from another woman and you will instantly see her being flattered.

3. BE THE HUNTER! A guy who goes out of his way for a girl will definitely be remembered. She will think of you instead of all that other nonsense that she thinks about constantly. (Women are thinkers!)

4. Have a car and/or a job. It doesn't matter what you do or have just as long as you have one. STUDENTS ARE EXCEPTIONS! (when you are in college it's more acceptable) It just shows that you have the things you need and won't be dependent on anyone else. An independent man is attractive.

5. Personal Maintenence: Learn it, live it, love it. Women are known to have a stronger sense of smell than men. They will notice if you are stinky and will definitely notice if you smell nice ;)

6. Make eye contact. When you don't make eye contact it shows insecurity, nervousness, and that you aren't listening. Your confidence will make her confident. Plus...it's sexy.

7. LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN!!!! If she is talking too much that is one thing...cut her off, but when she is telling you something it's polite to pay attention to her and give feedback.

8. Be creative. Coming up with new things makes her think you are fun and adventurous. No one likes a broken record.

9. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you tell her that you are going to do something that weekend then own up to it. You blow her off and she will never forget that. If it's a MAYBE, then make that clear and tell her that it isn't going to happen if you don't plan on it. No one likes waiting around.

10. Texting: We all know it's hard to tell the meaning behind what it said, but if you inititate it...FINISH IT!

11. Find a 100 reasons to buy her flowers. THAT is charming!

12. If you ask her out then you should pay for her. Even if she says "Oh I'll pay for myself" don't let her. Women like for men to be "In charge" at first. After you become more comfortable with eachother is when it's good to trade off.

13. If you are sorry then say it. Something with men about saying the words "I'm Sorry" means more than saying "woops..my bad." It means a lot!



*DON'T*

1. Gift Cards. Major no no for the first 3 dates. Unless you mention that you have one ahead of time and that you need to use it, don't whip it out last minute (that's what she said) when the bill arrives! Terribly Tacky.

2. Don't be a creep monster. Too much too fast is far fetched and won't last.

3. If you are interested in her, don't talk about other women. She will end up thinking you have wandering eyes and a wandering mind.

4. Don't be rude to the server or leave her a skimpy tip. It's plainly embarrassing. Always 20%. It's the millenium Gentlemen.

5. Don't just drop the woman off. If you are classy you will walk her to her door after taking her home.

6. NO GAME ON THE FIRST DATE! If you stay reserved it shows you like her for who she is and not what she's "got."

7. Farting or burping is not allowed when you first meet them. Later on if they are open to it...ok fine. But the first time? TOO comfortable for her.

8. Don't be just the funny or hard-headed guy. Show emotions and that you have a real side to you.

9. Don't be just the sentimental guy. Show that you have some sort of sense of humor and make her laugh. Like number 8, mix it up!

10. Don't ONLY text message!!! A phone call is personal and hearing the other person's voice makes it easier to get your point across. Text messaging can ruin relationships by relaying the wrong message.